9 Beliefs of Remarkably Successful People? Not Necessarily (Part 2 of 2)
In my last post I discussed the points referenced in a recent Inc. article by Jeff Haden with which I did not agree.
Today, I will highlight the points relating to the 9 beliefs of the successful people with whom Mr. Haden knows that I feel are for the most part right on the money.
The people around me are the people I chose. With the exception of family, where you can at least limit your interaction with those that are energy wasters, you do indeed have the ability to choose with whom you interact on both a business and personal basis. While I agree with the writer’s last statement that “Remarkable employees want to work for remarkable bosses,” and that “Successful people are naturally drawn to successful people,” when it comes to customers and co-workers absolute statements about choice take on an added dimension.
For example, what about customers and colleagues with whom you are asked to work? If they are difficult you can of course choose to quit your job, allow them to be a reason for your termination or just put them in the right perspective and not personalize the relationships. In my experience I have found to what should be no one’s surprise, how you treat people is typically how they treat you back. When you raise the bar in terms of being professional in your words and actions, they will have to know that you deserve to be treated well. In this regard it is all about how you speak with people, even in difficult situations.
This being said, you cannot enlighten the unconscious and you can’t make someone fix a problem that they do not believe exists. As a result, you have to know when to let it go (in the business world at least), and move on.
Failure is something I accomplish; it doesn’t just happen to me. I wholeheartedly agree in that my best lessons have been when I failed, or at best messed up.
The best way to view success is as an outcome of past failures as much as doing the right things at the right times. This is why I celebrate my failures as much as my successes, because I know I am wiser, better prepared and infused with energy to constantly improve and ultimately excel.
In this way, failures, challenges and set-backs are truly opportunities to learn and get better. After all, Colonel Sanders was refused 1,100 times before someone agreed to try his recipe for chicken, while venerable brands such as Disney and Hershey’s actually went bankrupt.
Experience is irrelevant. Accomplishments are everything. In my June 18th, 2012 (To be effective PR has to be selfless as opposed to self-serving) post I actually talk about the focusing on accomplishments over affiliations (re; experience).
To be as succinct as possible, it is all about accomplishments.
A resume can play a role in terms of identifying what you have done that is measurable, and therefore open doors of opportunity for you. However, you can easily find yourself leaving as fast as you came in if you stand for nothing and fail to produce results. Or to put it another way, experience may get you the job, but results or accomplishments will enable you to keep the job.
The extra mile is a vast, unpopulated wasteland. As I had indicated in the previous post, I made reference to the “integrity of your work.”
Integrity, like trust is earned by actions, and there are going to be occasions where you will come to a point of service delivery that differentiates just being good enough from being great. In this context, going that extra mile is not based on effort but on your personal values and ethics. Do you believe that you did the best job that you are capable of doing?
Think of going the extra mile like the end of a 100 yard sprint in the Olympics. In almost every instance the athlete who finishes first is the one who stretches forward and crashes through the finish line often times beating the second place finisher by that extra push.
To truly succeed, you cannot stop short because you have satisfied the technical requirements of a contract or an assigned task. You have to push yourself to be the very best and give your very best to your company, boss, co-workers and customers. To me this is the true definition of going that extra mile.