Career Curveballs: Why going against your gut instincts is never a good idea by Roz Usheroff

I have enjoyed immensely the new series called Career Curveballs by some of the LinkedIn’s top influencers. So much so that I thought that I would share a personal story that had a major impact on my life for many reasons – including the fact that it happened later rather than earlier in my career.

It is amazing how we all have a memory of something we did in which we at least to a certain extent continue to feel if not regret, then at least a disquieting sense that we could have done better.

From a personal standpoint, my moment of ruffled ease centers around a promise made but not kept.

The scheduling of a 2-day seminar gave me a couple of extra hours to spare before having to leave for the airport.It was the Friday of a very busy week and of course I was eager to get home and relax over the weekend.

As I was packing up at the conclusion of my seminar, I was approached by a number of people who, while not included in the original session, asked if I might be willing to stay a little longer at the end of the day and provide them with advice on how they could better brand themselves.

Having a couple of hours, and always happy to help individuals who take the initiative to want to learn, I agreed to give them an impromptu mini-seminar before leaving for the airport.

Unfortunately, and in the intervening minutes between their request and assembling everyone, the HR person through whom the main seminar had been arranged indicated that she was ready to drive me to the airport.

When I had informed her of the employees who had approached me to spend time with them, and that I had agreed to stay longer, she said that I should not worry about it because they were not high enough in the organization to benefit from my expertise.She then insisted, despite my assertions that I had agreed to stay, that we leave for the airport right then.In addition, she expressed the need to get some personal coaching due to a challenging situation.

gut Trust-your-instinctsAgainst my better judgment I relented, and after letting the employees know that I would now not be staying, I left with the HR person.

A few weeks later, when I reviewed the attendee comments for the session with the same individual from HR, she also informed me that some employees had publicly expressed disappointment that I had left for the airport rather than honor my promise to stay and talk with them.

I was̶and to this day, still am̶disappointed in myself for not staying with the employees as I had promised.I had in essence gone back on my word and in the process damaged my trust relationship with them.

I, of course, agreed to visit the company again and a few weeks later delivered a free seminar to the disappointed employees.

But here is the point of this story . . .

Often we will encounter a situation in which for whatever reason we will feel pressure to go against our instincts and even our word as a means of diffusing conflict.It is at crossroads such as these that we must step up to the plate and remain true to ourselves and the words or promises that both build and maintain the trust relationship we have with others.

While it would have been easy for me to deflect by saying that the only reason I left was because of the pressure placed on me by the HR person, the fact is that when everything was said and done, I and I alone am responsible for my own actions.

In this context it is important to always remember . . . say what you mean, and mean what you say!



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2 responses to “Career Curveballs: Why going against your gut instincts is never a good idea by Roz Usheroff”

  1. Jim Trunick says :

    Go girl !!!! Lessons from the winners !!! You are a winner !!!! Love it – the transparency, the writing and your soul !!!

    Great job, Roz

    Jim Trunick Principal , ALC Align Leadership and Coaching

    Sent from my iPhone


    • rozcoach says :

      Jim: Thanks so much for your kind words. I have found that my greatest learnings are from the mistakes I have made. However, when it results in making others feel devalued, it is a much harder pill to take. This lesson has taught me to always work at making my customers feel special and respected.

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