3 Tips on How To Avoid The Indecision Trap

I remember someone once telling me that indecision is in itself a choice.

It was a simple yet powerful observation.

Many have come to the crossroads of indecision not certain as to which is the right path to take. It is almost like being in a state of suspended animation, in which you are frozen or paralyzed.

There are, in these kinds of situations, countless call to action sayings such as “in the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take.” However, it is not until you are standing at the precipice of a life changing unknown, that weighing the full gravity of your choice can mute these words of encouragement. In short, there is a big difference between knowing you have to make a choice, and actually making one.

The following tips will hopefully help you to take that bold step forward from indecision to decision.

1. Time Will Make Your Decision For You

A wise man said that time decides if you don’t, and time always decides against you.


If for example you have a ticket to board a flight to Chicago, but can’t decide if you want to get on the plane, if you wait too long the plane will leave without you. The decision will have been made for you.

The point of the above example is that life happens beyond yourself. You can choose to be an active participant in your own life and future, or let the winds of fate or circumstance make the decision.

In whose hands would you like to place your future?

2. Even If You Get It Wrong, You Can Still Make It Right

In her book Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway, Susan Jeffers talks about her “No-Lose Model.”

Her model is based upon the belief that there is no such thing as a “right choice” or a “wrong choice,” as there is nothing in life with which you cannot ultimately deal.

By referencing the Jeffers model, I am not saying that your decision will not have consequences – it will. Nor am I suggesting that dealing with said consequences will always be easy. In fact, it might be extremely difficult.


This said, you are stronger and more resilient than you give yourself credit for. As a result, the consequences of indecision – of having someone other than yourself take responsibility for your actions and outcomes, is a far scarier proposition. After all, do you want to deal with the results of someone else’s choice or your own?

3. Always Be True To Yourself

Often times indecision arises when we are faced with doing something that goes against our values and who we really are.

being true to yourself

If you are experiencing uncertainty or unsure of what you should do in a particular situation, take a step back and ask yourself “will my ultimate decision align with my personal values?”

Making a choice that is based upon your personal values and beliefs is in and of itself liberating.

The reason is quite simple . . .

When you make a choice based on your values, dealing with the consequences is far easier than regretting a decision that goes against who you are and for what you stand.

This is the tipping point in the scale of indecision.

Stay true to yourself, and let the chips fall where they may.


Now that you have read the above, the rest is up to you! Of course, it always has been . . . up to you.



One response to “3 Tips on How To Avoid The Indecision Trap”

  1. Jim Trunick says :

    how maddening to MUST make a decision, and seemingly feel bad, regardless of the choice you make. I deal in eldercare with my mom. My sister is pulling her hair out on how to give her choices and yet keep her safe, as she has fallen several times. We agreed to two things: 1. no matter what decision we make someone will always question it – just deal with it, and they aren’t in our shoes. And 2. no matter happens, it all ends the same — nobody is getting outta here alive.

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